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Love is unpredictable and often unexpected. For Mackenzie Scibetta, who taught English lessons online to Japanese and Korean adults while working as a schoolteacher in Thailand, perhaps an even more unexpected place to find love was during one of her lessons. It started as typical banter designed to help her student (who happened to be about her age and handsome) master the various nuances of English. It quickly shifted when he asked: “What is love?” She didn’t have an answer at the time but was willing to risk her job to find out.
And, if your partner, friend or co-worker says something that gets under your skin, don’t try to convince yourself that it isn’t worth addressing. Microaggressions can be commonplace in any relationship. Here are a few tips that will help you decide when to address a comment head-on and when to let it slide.